This was our second Christmas here in Alberta. Last year we were invited to a family's house to celebrate Christmas with them. Last year, we were by far the youngest people there. It was still a lot of fun as we were out at the ranch. This year we had a few more invitations from other people. It is always hard to say no to someone. But, we decided to go back to the ranch for Christmas.
This year however, their entire family were able to be home for Christmas. It was a really neat experience. Around Christmas time we miss our families in Ontario and in California. We would love to celebrate with them. Since that is not possible, it was really nice to feel as if we were a part of the family for Christmas.
My wife and I said we weren't going to stay too long, because we wanted to have time alone and open our gifts together. Well, we were having such a good time, our plan of not staying long didn't work. We had a really good time and we felt welcomed as if we were a part of their family. What a neat way to celebrate Christmas this year!
Friday, December 26, 2008
Monday, December 22, 2008
Christmas Program
Last night we had the annual Sunday School program. It was a lot of fun to watch the little kids as they recited their lines and sang different songs. For me it is really neat to see the kids excited about being up front and singing. At what age is it no longer cool to stand up front and participate?
Anyway, my last post I said I was going to maybe push the limits a bit. Well, I think it went over pretty well. What I did was at the beginning of my meditation, I had someone call my cell phone. At first I looked out like whose phone is that? I should have let it ring longer to make people more uncomfortable as they looked for theirs, but I didnt. Anyway, I answered the phone and acted embarrassed that my phone would ring in the service. Then I reacted all excited about something happening right then and there. So, I ran out of the sanctuary. I came back in after a few minutes talking about how amazing it was to see a brand new baby.
The point I was making was how would we react to an important message like the birth of your own child. Or even more, if it was the birth of the Savior. The Shepherds left their work to go and see what the Angel had told them about. They returned glorifying and praising God for all they had seen and heard. The shepherds were excited about seeing the savior. I wondered then with the congregation if we too share in this excitement? Or are we too tired and worn out from all the busyness of the season? At one point when I asked if we are just too tired, one of the kids answered out loud, "YES!" It shows he was listening, and it shows how honest he was, and how we might need to be more honest with ourselves.
The story is the same story each and every year. For many people it is old and tired. But the excitement of the savior being born should never leave us. We should want to share it with everyone! God himself became flesh to dwell among us! He came to redeem his people. What could be any more exciting??
Anyway, my last post I said I was going to maybe push the limits a bit. Well, I think it went over pretty well. What I did was at the beginning of my meditation, I had someone call my cell phone. At first I looked out like whose phone is that? I should have let it ring longer to make people more uncomfortable as they looked for theirs, but I didnt. Anyway, I answered the phone and acted embarrassed that my phone would ring in the service. Then I reacted all excited about something happening right then and there. So, I ran out of the sanctuary. I came back in after a few minutes talking about how amazing it was to see a brand new baby.
The point I was making was how would we react to an important message like the birth of your own child. Or even more, if it was the birth of the Savior. The Shepherds left their work to go and see what the Angel had told them about. They returned glorifying and praising God for all they had seen and heard. The shepherds were excited about seeing the savior. I wondered then with the congregation if we too share in this excitement? Or are we too tired and worn out from all the busyness of the season? At one point when I asked if we are just too tired, one of the kids answered out loud, "YES!" It shows he was listening, and it shows how honest he was, and how we might need to be more honest with ourselves.
The story is the same story each and every year. For many people it is old and tired. But the excitement of the savior being born should never leave us. We should want to share it with everyone! God himself became flesh to dwell among us! He came to redeem his people. What could be any more exciting??
Friday, December 19, 2008
Pushing the limits??
Sunday night is our annual Sunday School Christmas program. It is quite the big thing around here. Last year was one of my first services here, and I remember that church was the fullest I have ever seen it. It seems as if it is a highlight for everyone to come. Which in my opinion is great. I love the fact that people want to encourage the kids in the Sunday school and hopefully they are excited about Christmas.
During the service there is a spot that is given to me to give a meditation of sorts, not a full blown sermon, because then we would be there until 9 pm. This year as I am thinking about what I am going to do, I think I want to push the limits a bit. I want to stretch people's comfort zone. Hopefully it will be something that will make people remember and think about for a while.
For those who read this and go to our church, well, you will just have to wait and see on Sunday evening what will happen. I am looking forward to it. I hope everyone else is too!
During the service there is a spot that is given to me to give a meditation of sorts, not a full blown sermon, because then we would be there until 9 pm. This year as I am thinking about what I am going to do, I think I want to push the limits a bit. I want to stretch people's comfort zone. Hopefully it will be something that will make people remember and think about for a while.
For those who read this and go to our church, well, you will just have to wait and see on Sunday evening what will happen. I am looking forward to it. I hope everyone else is too!
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Too busy to work
As I said before this is really my first full Christmas season as a pastor of a church. It is a busy time of year. The thing that I am finding, at least in this week is that there is so much going on, it is hard to keep my mind focused. There is a lot that I need to do, but it is as if I am too busy to work. My mind is on what I need to do next, and I cant seem to focus on what I need to do now. This isnt a good thing as I need to get the sermons written, I need to get the services planned, I need to call people to line them up for readings, I need to...it seems as if it keeps going and going.
I am looking forward to Christmas, I really am. But, the time between now and then doesnt seem to be long enough! I guess that is the life of a pastor. IT is a fun time of year, I just dont want to get lost in the busyness of it all.
I am looking forward to Christmas, I really am. But, the time between now and then doesnt seem to be long enough! I guess that is the life of a pastor. IT is a fun time of year, I just dont want to get lost in the busyness of it all.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
I might be Sick
Could someone recommend a good psychologist? I think I need to be examined. I have said a couple of times today, "It is really nice outside." You might be wondering why this might mean that I am sick. Well, it is -10 C (14 F) outside. Growing up in California it rarely dropped below 10 C (50 F) during the winter, if it did, it was usually at night. Sure we would spend some time up in the mountains at the snow, but that would only be for a few days. But I cant believe I actually think that -10 is nice.
Not only that, I voluntarily went for a walk/hike over an hour on Saturday in -40, at this point, Celsius and Fahrenheit dont really matter, it is COLD!! It was a nice time actually. We walked in the river bottom and were looking for Coyotes but never saw any. We did see a herd of Mule deer, which was pretty awesome. Walking in the trees was actually nice, until we reached an opening, then it was really cold. But it was really enjoyable.
The reason -10 feels good is because after 3 days of -40 to -50 degree wind chill, it is really nice. It was great to take the dog out for a walk, she seemed to have a lot of fun, rather than the last three days of sitting and shivering the whole time. As they said last year at my ordination service, global warming hasnt really hit Alberta yet!!
Not only that, I voluntarily went for a walk/hike over an hour on Saturday in -40, at this point, Celsius and Fahrenheit dont really matter, it is COLD!! It was a nice time actually. We walked in the river bottom and were looking for Coyotes but never saw any. We did see a herd of Mule deer, which was pretty awesome. Walking in the trees was actually nice, until we reached an opening, then it was really cold. But it was really enjoyable.
The reason -10 feels good is because after 3 days of -40 to -50 degree wind chill, it is really nice. It was great to take the dog out for a walk, she seemed to have a lot of fun, rather than the last three days of sitting and shivering the whole time. As they said last year at my ordination service, global warming hasnt really hit Alberta yet!!
White Christmas
In the 10 years since I have moved from California, I have not had a white Christmas yet. The main reason was that each Christmas I still went home, so of course there was no snow. But this is the third year that I am in an area where it is possible to have a white Christmas. I guess the questions I am asking is, what constitutes a white Christmas?
What I mean is this, does it have to actually be snowing on Christmas day for it to be considered a white Christmas? Or does it mean that there has to be snow around, like on the ground for it to be considered a white Christmas? If the answer is the latter, then I think I am guaranteed my first white Christmas ever. If it is the former, then that will have to be determined yet. The way the weather is now, I think we are guaranteed snow on the ground at least. So, I guess I will see if it is worth all the hype...finally.
What I mean is this, does it have to actually be snowing on Christmas day for it to be considered a white Christmas? Or does it mean that there has to be snow around, like on the ground for it to be considered a white Christmas? If the answer is the latter, then I think I am guaranteed my first white Christmas ever. If it is the former, then that will have to be determined yet. The way the weather is now, I think we are guaranteed snow on the ground at least. So, I guess I will see if it is worth all the hype...finally.
Friday, December 12, 2008
Christmas mood
This year is my first year of leading Advent services and really preparing for Christmas and New Years Eve. Last year we were in the middle of a move and everything seemed so out of place and it was just a blur for the most part. This year is a little different. We are settled in and have been here for a while and we know the area pretty well.
With that being said, I still feel that it is hard to get in the "Christmas mood." This morning as I am preparing for the third Sunday of Advent, I was thinking about how I need to really reflect on what Christmas is all about. You would think it is easy to do this when you are in ministry. But I think that since there is a lot on my mind about the upcoming services, it makes it difficult to really get in the Christmas mood.
As I prepare for Christmas and advent, I think I need to take some time to do more reflecting on the meaning of Christmas and advent. It is something that many people can go into auto pilot when they think about Christmas. How can we make the Christmas story new and exciting? Do we need to? Should we use the K.I.S.S model (Keep It Simple, Stupid) during this time of year? Do we need to get back to basics when it comes to Christmas? We celebrate the birth of our Savior and Lord. We celebrate his coming, and we wait his coming again. Hopefully we arent too wrapped up in our own things that we take this for granted. Hopefully we can honestly say as John says in Revelation 22:20, "Come, Lord Jesus"
With that being said, I still feel that it is hard to get in the "Christmas mood." This morning as I am preparing for the third Sunday of Advent, I was thinking about how I need to really reflect on what Christmas is all about. You would think it is easy to do this when you are in ministry. But I think that since there is a lot on my mind about the upcoming services, it makes it difficult to really get in the Christmas mood.
As I prepare for Christmas and advent, I think I need to take some time to do more reflecting on the meaning of Christmas and advent. It is something that many people can go into auto pilot when they think about Christmas. How can we make the Christmas story new and exciting? Do we need to? Should we use the K.I.S.S model (Keep It Simple, Stupid) during this time of year? Do we need to get back to basics when it comes to Christmas? We celebrate the birth of our Savior and Lord. We celebrate his coming, and we wait his coming again. Hopefully we arent too wrapped up in our own things that we take this for granted. Hopefully we can honestly say as John says in Revelation 22:20, "Come, Lord Jesus"
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Energizing
A few posts ago I asked the question what wears us out. In that, I think I talked about what energizes us as well. For me playing sports has always been the best way for me to get energy. The last few weeks I have been driving to Lethbridge to play basketball on Wednesday nights. After the first week I said to my wife, "I really miss playing." At Seminary I was able to play basketball 3 mornings a week at 6:30, plus I was able to play on intramurals as well as volleyball with friends.
I was noticing again last night that I really enjoy getting out there and playing. Life in the ministry can be lonely at points. Especially when we get close to the holidays you really begin to miss your family. That last number of years we were able to be with some family during the holidays. But now is the second time that we arent able to be at home with our families. It is a busy time of year for me, but I realize that playing basketball has really helped me.
I find that I can have a good time with a bunch of guys that I really dont know, but am getting to know over time. It is a lot of fun to play hard and competitively, but also to respect each other. I am finally getting in to shape, at least a little bit.
On a different note, I am not looking forward to this weekend. Not that there is anything that makes it extra busy or anything, it is just the fact that they are forecasting a high -25 celsius (-13 Farenheit) as a high on Monday! Saturday and Sunday arent much better. I was thinking of going skiing on Monday to practice a bit, but not in -25 thank you very much!!
I was noticing again last night that I really enjoy getting out there and playing. Life in the ministry can be lonely at points. Especially when we get close to the holidays you really begin to miss your family. That last number of years we were able to be with some family during the holidays. But now is the second time that we arent able to be at home with our families. It is a busy time of year for me, but I realize that playing basketball has really helped me.
I find that I can have a good time with a bunch of guys that I really dont know, but am getting to know over time. It is a lot of fun to play hard and competitively, but also to respect each other. I am finally getting in to shape, at least a little bit.
On a different note, I am not looking forward to this weekend. Not that there is anything that makes it extra busy or anything, it is just the fact that they are forecasting a high -25 celsius (-13 Farenheit) as a high on Monday! Saturday and Sunday arent much better. I was thinking of going skiing on Monday to practice a bit, but not in -25 thank you very much!!
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
Walking in the cold
Coming from a native Southern Californian, this might sound strange. I just enjoyed my walk outside in the cold. It sounds especially strange since I am not a fan of walking for exercise. However, since getting the puppy it has forced me to go on longer walks then I ever would have done before. I am actually starting to enjoy them.
As I was on my walk, even though Pepper wasnt really following me that well, I was thinking about how much I enjoyed it. It is -7 Celsius or 19 Fahrenheit, growing up I dont think I could have ever imagined that cold of weather. But having lived in cold weather country for the past 10 years, you start to get used to it, or not mind it as much. (That is what I say now in December, talk to me in February or March, see how I feel then.) I was thinking about the fact that there was no wind and it wasnt so bad. It is a bit invigorating to walk out in the cold.
Not only is it healthy to walk every day, but I am finding that I think about God's creation as I am on my walk. Today again is different than yesterday, but both were beautiful days in their own way. It is amazing to me to see God's creation and all the minute little details that he has made. Yet, he gave it to us. Often times we take it for granted. I know for myself, I am being reminded of how great a God we have.
As I was on my walk, even though Pepper wasnt really following me that well, I was thinking about how much I enjoyed it. It is -7 Celsius or 19 Fahrenheit, growing up I dont think I could have ever imagined that cold of weather. But having lived in cold weather country for the past 10 years, you start to get used to it, or not mind it as much. (That is what I say now in December, talk to me in February or March, see how I feel then.) I was thinking about the fact that there was no wind and it wasnt so bad. It is a bit invigorating to walk out in the cold.
Not only is it healthy to walk every day, but I am finding that I think about God's creation as I am on my walk. Today again is different than yesterday, but both were beautiful days in their own way. It is amazing to me to see God's creation and all the minute little details that he has made. Yet, he gave it to us. Often times we take it for granted. I know for myself, I am being reminded of how great a God we have.
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
I can't believe it
I was/am sick to my stomach. Yesterday I did something that I cant simply believe. I went to the local ice arena where I can skate for a while, usually, by myself as I am still learning. While I was there, I decided it would be a good idea to put my wedding ring in my pocket while I mess around with the hockey puck and stick.
Well, I put it in my pocket thinking that was the best place for it. Do you think I remembered right away to put it back on my finger? No, it didnt occur to me until later last night that I didnt have my ring. In a panic I reached in my pocket and my ring was not there. I didnt search too much, maybe I will later, but I think the thing that happened was it fell out of my pocket when I reached for my keys either at the Ice arena or the grocery store since I stopped there next. I dont remember hearing it, but, that is the only thing I can think of.
I felt so terrible I didnt know how to tell my wife last night until we were in bed. We thought we had purchased some sort of insurance with the ring when we bought it. But, of course it doesnt cover loss, it covers re-sizing and things like that, but not replacement. Anyway, I still cant believe it and feel terrible. But, what can I do?
Well, I put it in my pocket thinking that was the best place for it. Do you think I remembered right away to put it back on my finger? No, it didnt occur to me until later last night that I didnt have my ring. In a panic I reached in my pocket and my ring was not there. I didnt search too much, maybe I will later, but I think the thing that happened was it fell out of my pocket when I reached for my keys either at the Ice arena or the grocery store since I stopped there next. I dont remember hearing it, but, that is the only thing I can think of.
I felt so terrible I didnt know how to tell my wife last night until we were in bed. We thought we had purchased some sort of insurance with the ring when we bought it. But, of course it doesnt cover loss, it covers re-sizing and things like that, but not replacement. Anyway, I still cant believe it and feel terrible. But, what can I do?
Thursday, November 27, 2008
Happy Thanksgiving, part 2
Today is American Thanksgiving. Thinking about that this morning has made me a bit homesick. I have never really thought about being away from home much. But hearing that my family was going camping for Thanksgiving it makes me want to be there with them. Oh, to be camping by a lake at the end of November.
Being homesick hasnt really happened to me for a long time. I have been away from home for 10 years now, I should be accustomed to it by now. Things that help are the fact that we have a great church community here. Knowing that we are loved and welcomed as a part of the family here has been great. Going to things like volleyball tonight will really help. I played basketball for the first time in months last night and realized how much I miss playing. I find if I keep myself busy enough, then you dont have time to think about missing out on camping. Having a job where you sit in your office and think sometimes doesnt help. But, in general I dont get homesick.
One thing that I am looking forward to, at least a little bit, is the fact that we are celebrating American Thanksgiving on Saturday with some others in the area who are American. I think this is a neat idea. Last year I remember missing Thanksgiving especially because we received American TV channels and I could watch Football on that day!
Anyway, on this Thanksgiving Day, I am thankful for family, friends, and a great church community. We are really blessed to be here in Granum. Both my wife and I feel this way. We love being here and are extremely thankful. Most of all I am thankful for our Lord and Savior that he came to us. We begin Advent and celebrate his coming, and we wait his coming again. Thank you Jesus for giving yourself for us!
Being homesick hasnt really happened to me for a long time. I have been away from home for 10 years now, I should be accustomed to it by now. Things that help are the fact that we have a great church community here. Knowing that we are loved and welcomed as a part of the family here has been great. Going to things like volleyball tonight will really help. I played basketball for the first time in months last night and realized how much I miss playing. I find if I keep myself busy enough, then you dont have time to think about missing out on camping. Having a job where you sit in your office and think sometimes doesnt help. But, in general I dont get homesick.
One thing that I am looking forward to, at least a little bit, is the fact that we are celebrating American Thanksgiving on Saturday with some others in the area who are American. I think this is a neat idea. Last year I remember missing Thanksgiving especially because we received American TV channels and I could watch Football on that day!
Anyway, on this Thanksgiving Day, I am thankful for family, friends, and a great church community. We are really blessed to be here in Granum. Both my wife and I feel this way. We love being here and are extremely thankful. Most of all I am thankful for our Lord and Savior that he came to us. We begin Advent and celebrate his coming, and we wait his coming again. Thank you Jesus for giving yourself for us!
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
Feeling guilty
This past weekend I actually had the Sunday off and decided it was time to take my wife on a weekend getaway. She had no idea of where we were going or anything. It was a lot of fun to plan this without her knowing. We went to Banff national park and stayed at a nice lodge with a fireplace and kitchen. We went to the hot springs and went up the Banff Gondola. It was a really nice time.
When I got home, there was a message on my machine that someone in our church had a heart attack. It was bad enough that they sent him to Calgary. The thing that got me was that we just came through there. It was too bad I didnt know about it earlier we could have stopped on the way home.
This got me thinking about the weekend. I started to feel a little guilty that we werent around for this. So, on my day off I went up to visit him. Should I feel guilty about spending some quality time with my wife? I feel a little guilty, but then on the other hand, I need to do these things for my own personal life as well as my sanity. Again, some conflicting feelings.
When I got home, there was a message on my machine that someone in our church had a heart attack. It was bad enough that they sent him to Calgary. The thing that got me was that we just came through there. It was too bad I didnt know about it earlier we could have stopped on the way home.
This got me thinking about the weekend. I started to feel a little guilty that we werent around for this. So, on my day off I went up to visit him. Should I feel guilty about spending some quality time with my wife? I feel a little guilty, but then on the other hand, I need to do these things for my own personal life as well as my sanity. Again, some conflicting feelings.
Friday, November 21, 2008
It's not about me
I am constantly amazed by different things in the ministry. Yesterday for example: In the afternoon, I wasnt feeling like doing much. I felt like I could go to the bakery and sit and read my book and I would be content. (Which for me is surprising that I would be content reading a book.) But I felt I should go make some visits. It was almost reluctantly that I went to visit some of those who live in rest homes.
The first one was asleep and I thought, well this is my sign to just go to the bakery. But, I thought, no, I should do this. So I went to visit a couple of others and wow, I was amazed at how they made me feel good. I was excited about their reaction to seeing me. Not only that, but the people I visited with are so positive. They are in their 80's and 90's and yet have a very positive attitude about life. Visiting with them lifted my spirits. It's amazing how we can be ministered to at the same time of ministering to others. What a blessing.
The first one was asleep and I thought, well this is my sign to just go to the bakery. But, I thought, no, I should do this. So I went to visit a couple of others and wow, I was amazed at how they made me feel good. I was excited about their reaction to seeing me. Not only that, but the people I visited with are so positive. They are in their 80's and 90's and yet have a very positive attitude about life. Visiting with them lifted my spirits. It's amazing how we can be ministered to at the same time of ministering to others. What a blessing.
Thursday, November 20, 2008
What wears us out?
I was asked this question by my mentor. This is a good question. I think this is something that changes from time to time. I dont think that certain things tire us out all the time, but at certain points things that might be frustrating might tire us out. In ministry there are things that will tire us out. However, there are things that should give us energy or perk us up.
Talking about this yesterday made me think of things that really make me feel good. There are a lot of things that perk me up and give me energy. Playing sports is one thing that really energizes me. But, this is a problem for me. Where we live makes it difficult to play the sports I love. We started volleyball in town which has been good for me. The main sport that I really miss is basketball.
The question I think I should ask myself is if I am too lazy lately? There is the opportunity to play basketball in a town that is a half hour away from me. The thing is, it is on Wednesday nights. Am I too lazy to drive that far to play the sport I love? Do I always have make appointments on Wednesday nights so I have an excuse not to drive that far?
Since living in Canada, I have taken an interest in hockey. So now I am trying to organize playing hockey in one of the nearby towns. But again this will take some time to get together.
I think there are other things that energize me, I just need to find them. I need to be able to do them more often so that it helps my mood. I do miss playing basketball 3 days a week like I did at Seminary. I miss the fellowship as well as the exercise. I think this weekend will help energize me. I am taking my wife away for the weekend, she doesnt know where yet. We dont get many weekends, and since I have Sunday off, I am taking advantage of it. I am really looking forward to it.
Talking about this yesterday made me think of things that really make me feel good. There are a lot of things that perk me up and give me energy. Playing sports is one thing that really energizes me. But, this is a problem for me. Where we live makes it difficult to play the sports I love. We started volleyball in town which has been good for me. The main sport that I really miss is basketball.
The question I think I should ask myself is if I am too lazy lately? There is the opportunity to play basketball in a town that is a half hour away from me. The thing is, it is on Wednesday nights. Am I too lazy to drive that far to play the sport I love? Do I always have make appointments on Wednesday nights so I have an excuse not to drive that far?
Since living in Canada, I have taken an interest in hockey. So now I am trying to organize playing hockey in one of the nearby towns. But again this will take some time to get together.
I think there are other things that energize me, I just need to find them. I need to be able to do them more often so that it helps my mood. I do miss playing basketball 3 days a week like I did at Seminary. I miss the fellowship as well as the exercise. I think this weekend will help energize me. I am taking my wife away for the weekend, she doesnt know where yet. We dont get many weekends, and since I have Sunday off, I am taking advantage of it. I am really looking forward to it.
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Should Size Matter?
First of all, everyone get their mind out of the gutter. What I am talking about is with regards to youth group. We have a small youth group this year, and an even smaller one next year. Currently we have a possible 6-8 kids that potentially could come to youth group. So, if 1 or 2 dont show up, that makes the group really small.
The thing I struggle with is what to do with such a small group. Last year on my internship we had a group of close to 25-30 each time. In a large group you can do bigger games, better activities, etc. With a small group, what can we do? Should we just hang out and play games, or should I actually try to have a discussion with them?
I struggle with this question. I struggle with how much effort I should put into planning for the youth group meetings. A question that arises in my mind is, "If they dont want to be here, why should I spend my time planning things?" Is this a bad attitude to have? Just some thoughts that I have had the last couple of times we had a youth group meeting. I would be interested to hear some opinions or advice on this matter.
The thing I struggle with is what to do with such a small group. Last year on my internship we had a group of close to 25-30 each time. In a large group you can do bigger games, better activities, etc. With a small group, what can we do? Should we just hang out and play games, or should I actually try to have a discussion with them?
I struggle with this question. I struggle with how much effort I should put into planning for the youth group meetings. A question that arises in my mind is, "If they dont want to be here, why should I spend my time planning things?" Is this a bad attitude to have? Just some thoughts that I have had the last couple of times we had a youth group meeting. I would be interested to hear some opinions or advice on this matter.
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Walking Barefoot
One of the things I remember from my Pastor Care class at Seminary was a saying that Professor Nydam said. We were talking about Empathy and how we can show empathy to members in our congregations. The way he described empathy was this: "It is walking barefoot beside them through their trial." At first it sounded kind of cheesy. But having done some more reflection on this it makes a lot of sense.
When someone in our congregation is going through a hard time, as pastors it is our calling to be with them in this process. It doesn't mean that we will feel exactly how they will feel. But what it means is that we are there beside them, we struggle along with them. We hurt as they hurt.
I was thinking about this yesterday as I visited with Roy. Roy is the brother who was driving the car when his sister was killed a few weeks ago. (See earlier post, "Mixed Emotions) Roy is doing okay, but is back in the hospital. I went to see him yesterday and there are a lot of things that he is feeling. I think there is an overwhelming sense of guilt. He said a few times, "If only I would have gone back." He also said, "It's not fair that he is alive."
It is in these times that we really are walking barefoot beside them, or we should be. I mean, if we were to put ourselves in his shoes, how would we feel? I cant even begin to imagine. But it is in these times that as a pastor we can be there to listen, to try and offer some words of comfort, but those are hard to come by. The only thing that is comforting is the assurance that he has that his sister is with her Lord. In times like these we can offer words of hope as we walk barefoot beside them.
When someone in our congregation is going through a hard time, as pastors it is our calling to be with them in this process. It doesn't mean that we will feel exactly how they will feel. But what it means is that we are there beside them, we struggle along with them. We hurt as they hurt.
I was thinking about this yesterday as I visited with Roy. Roy is the brother who was driving the car when his sister was killed a few weeks ago. (See earlier post, "Mixed Emotions) Roy is doing okay, but is back in the hospital. I went to see him yesterday and there are a lot of things that he is feeling. I think there is an overwhelming sense of guilt. He said a few times, "If only I would have gone back." He also said, "It's not fair that he is alive."
It is in these times that we really are walking barefoot beside them, or we should be. I mean, if we were to put ourselves in his shoes, how would we feel? I cant even begin to imagine. But it is in these times that as a pastor we can be there to listen, to try and offer some words of comfort, but those are hard to come by. The only thing that is comforting is the assurance that he has that his sister is with her Lord. In times like these we can offer words of hope as we walk barefoot beside them.
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
How can I help
Today I was thinking, can you care for someone too much?? I mean, when you love someone and you truly care for them, when they hurt, you hurt along with them. Coming from a man, it is extremely difficult to sit by and not be able to just "fix" whatever is wrong. I think that is something that is bothering me too. Since I can't just fix the problem, what can I do to help? What can you do when the person you love is hurting? How can I help? I want to fix the problem, but not sure how.
Monday, November 3, 2008
Mixed Emotions
Yesterday was a challenging Sunday. Just before the morning service someone came in and said they saw a bad accident on the way to church. Living in the country, when there are bad accidents, they are usually really bad. Not only that, but they thought it was someone from our church. They thought it was a brother and sister who have lived together for many years. She was in her 90's and he in his 70's. Well, when I heard this, I thought, he is supposed to be on the Piano this morning. So I went in the sanctuary and saw he wasnt playing. THis was not normal, he is always there since he loves to play the piano.
Immediately when I saw this my heart sunk. I had a bad feeling it was them in the accident, but we had no way of knowing. At the beginning of the service I saw some family members going in and out and it seemed to confirm it.
After the service we learned that the sister died in the car accident. We made an announcement in the fellowship hall, and after some phone calls off to the hospital I went. The brother was doing okay, so I thought I should go to be with the family.
This is where the really difficult part comes in. We got to the hospital, and he was going to be released soon. What is so hard about this is the fact that we are glad that he was okay and was able to go home, yet on the other hand, his sister had died in the car accident. The challenging thing is, how do you minister in this situation. You are glad one is alive, but sad that the other is not.
The amazing thing to me was the fact that I was able to get through the service with all that was going on in my mind. I had a bad feeling that someone was killed, but wasn't 100% sure. Yet, the service was able to continue on, and it really seemed to me that there was an extra measure of volume in the congregation singing. I dont know if it was just me, or if the Spirit was extra evident during this service. Anyway, I am just amazed, but also have mixed emotions right now.
Immediately when I saw this my heart sunk. I had a bad feeling it was them in the accident, but we had no way of knowing. At the beginning of the service I saw some family members going in and out and it seemed to confirm it.
After the service we learned that the sister died in the car accident. We made an announcement in the fellowship hall, and after some phone calls off to the hospital I went. The brother was doing okay, so I thought I should go to be with the family.
This is where the really difficult part comes in. We got to the hospital, and he was going to be released soon. What is so hard about this is the fact that we are glad that he was okay and was able to go home, yet on the other hand, his sister had died in the car accident. The challenging thing is, how do you minister in this situation. You are glad one is alive, but sad that the other is not.
The amazing thing to me was the fact that I was able to get through the service with all that was going on in my mind. I had a bad feeling that someone was killed, but wasn't 100% sure. Yet, the service was able to continue on, and it really seemed to me that there was an extra measure of volume in the congregation singing. I dont know if it was just me, or if the Spirit was extra evident during this service. Anyway, I am just amazed, but also have mixed emotions right now.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Fun with the Puppy
As the weeks go by, and they seem to go by way to fast, we are learning more and more how fun it is to have a puppy. We also learn the frustrations as well. But we are having fun seeing how she plays. Last night we found out something that was quite hilarious. We have been given a lot of carrots from people in our church. So as we were having some the other night, we thought, let's see how Pepper likes these, so we gave her a piece. She played with it like it was a toy. It was quite fun to watch. So, to keep her entertained for a while, we would give her some pieces of carrot. They now work as a great substitute for treats. It is quite amusing sometimes what she does.
Monday, October 13, 2008
Happy Thanksgiving
As was suggested, here is the article I wrote for the local press. I think it is appropriate since today is Thanksgiving here in Canada.
Time to be Thankful
At this time of year we are reminded to be thankful. In the coming week we will be celebrating Thanksgiving Day. For many people Thanksgiving Day is just another day off. However it is one day set aside to help us to remember to be thankful. Living in Canada we have a lot to be thankful for. We enjoy a lot of freedoms in this country that many people around the world do not have. We are greatly blessed to live in such a place.
At this time of year we are reminded to be thankful to the One who has blessed us with so much. We thank God for all his many blessings. Psalm 136 reminds us that we are to “Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good.” In this Psalm there is a line that is repeated after each phrase. That line is, “His love endures forever.” The Psalm begins by saying, “Give thanks to the Lord for he is good. His love endures forever. Give thanks to the God of gods. His love endures forever. Give thanks to the Lord of lords. His love endures forever…” The repetition of the phrase “His love endures forever” reminds us of why we are to give thanks.
We give thanks most of all because God’s love endures forever. No matter what you are faced with, “His love endures forever.” If you have cancer and don’t have a good prognosis, even in the midst of that “His love endures forever.” If you are struggling financially, even in the midst of that, “His love endures forever.”
If you are doing really well, and have many good things happening in your life, “His love endures forever.” We need to remember that all good things come from the one whose “love endures forever.” We are reminded to give thanks. Paul reminds us in his letter to the Thessalonians, “Be joyful always; pray continually; give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.” (I Thess. 5:16-18) Paul of all people knew what it was like to suffer. He was persecuted, beaten, imprisoned, yet he still urges everyone to give thanks in all circumstances.
Some might wonder how can you be thankful when things are going wrong in my life? We can do this because we have confidence in the great creator. As Psalm 136 continues to remind us to give thanks “to him who alone does great wonders, who by his understanding made the heavens, who spread out the earth upon the waters, who made the great lights.” Why? Because “His love endures forever.”
His love does endure forever. He sent his son Jesus Christ to die on the cross to save us from our sin. Through his son, his love continues on, it endures forever. It is because of his great love for us, we are saved from our sins. In this time of year we have one day that is set aside for the main reason of giving thanks. To give thanks in good times and in bad. We can give thanks to “the God of heaven. His love endures forever.”
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Frustrating
Why is it that sometimes the smallest things will frustrate us? In ministry there are a lot of things that can get under our skin, that is if we let them. But it seems as if sometimes the smallest things will affect us more than other things. Sometimes it is easier to let some things go in one ear and out the other. Other times, a small, minor comment might stick with us for hours or days.
For example: Where I live we have a fairly active ministerial. A ministerial is the group of pastors from all the area churches that get together and plan activities or just get together for coffee. Anyway, in this particular ministerial we are asked to write an article for the local paper. Last week it was my turn to write the article. I tend to find this very difficult to do. It is completely wide open and there is no guidance given. Coming up with a topic is sometimes hard to do. But, I figured the paper would be coming out the Wednesday before Thanksgiving so something on Thanksgiving would be appropriate. I spent the time writing the article. Submitted it, and even had the editor tell me he received it. Then when the paper came out, it wasn't in the paper, and someone else had written an article.
I dont know why this bothers me so much. Maybe because I do find them difficult to write and when you take the time to do it in an already busy week, it is frustrating that they disregard it and dont even use it. Maybe this is a small thing, I just found it frustrating. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.
For example: Where I live we have a fairly active ministerial. A ministerial is the group of pastors from all the area churches that get together and plan activities or just get together for coffee. Anyway, in this particular ministerial we are asked to write an article for the local paper. Last week it was my turn to write the article. I tend to find this very difficult to do. It is completely wide open and there is no guidance given. Coming up with a topic is sometimes hard to do. But, I figured the paper would be coming out the Wednesday before Thanksgiving so something on Thanksgiving would be appropriate. I spent the time writing the article. Submitted it, and even had the editor tell me he received it. Then when the paper came out, it wasn't in the paper, and someone else had written an article.
I dont know why this bothers me so much. Maybe because I do find them difficult to write and when you take the time to do it in an already busy week, it is frustrating that they disregard it and dont even use it. Maybe this is a small thing, I just found it frustrating. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest.
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Child of God?
I have been thinking a lot about baptism lately. For a few reasons: First, I have been able to baptize 3 infants in the first 10 months of ministry. Second, I have started a new tradition in our church by introducing the baby after I have baptized it. When I do so, I say "(Child's name) is a child of God..." As a result of that I have had some interesting conversations about baptism with someone. Third, as I go through the Heidelberg Catechism, I have reached the discussion on sacraments and especially baptism. Finally, even before I received it in the mail, the Calvin Theological Seminary Forum has the entire issue dealing with baptism. To read this go here: http://calvinseminary.edu/pubs/forum/08fall.pdf
I find it interesting that all of these things have come together in the past few months. The main thing that has caused me to think so much about baptism, and infant baptism in particular is the discussion I had. In this discussion, the person was challenging me on what I meant when I said the baby was a "Child of God." In this discussion this person wanted to know if I meant they were physically a child of God, or spiritually. I agreed with this person that physically everyone is a child of God, since God created everyone. But for this person to be a spiritual child of God meant you were saved.
It is at this point we disagree. We agreed that baptism itself does not save the child. So, for this person, the child cannot be a spiritual child of God. For this person, they feel that a child of believing parents is blessed to be born into a home of believing parents, but would not consider them to be a spiritual child of God. In our conversation, it really seemed to hinge on this person's definition of a child of God.
We agreed on a lot of things. This person did not want to give any false assurance to parents, I agree. This person felt that baptism is a sign, not an actual saving element, I agree. But for this person, only those who are saved should be called children of God.
For this person then, Baptism should only be given to those who have a personal relationship with God. That is why I think the Forum article is so timely for me. It reaffirms everything I said to this person about infant baptism. It isn't about the person's choice to choose God. In infant baptism, God is the one choosing the child. As a community we also make promises to do our part in raising this child in the covenant.
I think that is what makes infant baptism so special. It is God who is doing the action. God alone is saying that this child is a child of his. That he loves this child so much, that he sent his son to die on the cross for him or her, even before they were born. The thing that made this whole discussion so challenging is the person's view on what is a Child of God. I couldn't fully agree with this person's definition because I know that baptism doesn't automatically save the child. But yet, God is separating the child and calling it to be his own, so I am still confident in saying at an infant baptism, "This is a child of God."
I find it interesting that all of these things have come together in the past few months. The main thing that has caused me to think so much about baptism, and infant baptism in particular is the discussion I had. In this discussion, the person was challenging me on what I meant when I said the baby was a "Child of God." In this discussion this person wanted to know if I meant they were physically a child of God, or spiritually. I agreed with this person that physically everyone is a child of God, since God created everyone. But for this person to be a spiritual child of God meant you were saved.
It is at this point we disagree. We agreed that baptism itself does not save the child. So, for this person, the child cannot be a spiritual child of God. For this person, they feel that a child of believing parents is blessed to be born into a home of believing parents, but would not consider them to be a spiritual child of God. In our conversation, it really seemed to hinge on this person's definition of a child of God.
We agreed on a lot of things. This person did not want to give any false assurance to parents, I agree. This person felt that baptism is a sign, not an actual saving element, I agree. But for this person, only those who are saved should be called children of God.
For this person then, Baptism should only be given to those who have a personal relationship with God. That is why I think the Forum article is so timely for me. It reaffirms everything I said to this person about infant baptism. It isn't about the person's choice to choose God. In infant baptism, God is the one choosing the child. As a community we also make promises to do our part in raising this child in the covenant.
I think that is what makes infant baptism so special. It is God who is doing the action. God alone is saying that this child is a child of his. That he loves this child so much, that he sent his son to die on the cross for him or her, even before they were born. The thing that made this whole discussion so challenging is the person's view on what is a Child of God. I couldn't fully agree with this person's definition because I know that baptism doesn't automatically save the child. But yet, God is separating the child and calling it to be his own, so I am still confident in saying at an infant baptism, "This is a child of God."
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Immigration
Immigrating to a new place is not the easiest thing to do. Even though I am married to a Canadian citizen; even though I have a job in Canada; even though it is a job that doesn't need a work visa - it is still challenging. Everything is affected by my temporary status. I can't import fully until I have my permanent residency. I cant get an Alberta License until I get my permanent residency. I couldn't even get financed for our car because I might skip the country soon.
It is a bit frustrating all the things that you have to do. Today I went for my medical exam for immigration. Well, it was basically a joke. Sure it didnt take that long, but the Doctor seemed more interested in talking to me about other people who have gone through this, or other people who havent showed up for their appointments. He told me stories about people who have medical history that is a lot worse then mine, yet they are allowed in. So, I was thinking, if they allow people in with such conditions in a social health care system, why do they put us through these hoops?
Is it a cash grab or what? The visit lasted less than an hour. I paid 186 dollars for this. He listened to my heart. Asked me some questions, hit each knee. Then sent me for an x-ray. Tomorrow I have to go back and get some lab work done, which I think I have to pay for that too.
I guess it is frustrating that you pay so much for the doctor to ask you questions you could have answered on your own. I could have weighed myself and checked my height. It seems a bit much if they accept people with worse anyway? What's the point?
It is a bit frustrating all the things that you have to do. Today I went for my medical exam for immigration. Well, it was basically a joke. Sure it didnt take that long, but the Doctor seemed more interested in talking to me about other people who have gone through this, or other people who havent showed up for their appointments. He told me stories about people who have medical history that is a lot worse then mine, yet they are allowed in. So, I was thinking, if they allow people in with such conditions in a social health care system, why do they put us through these hoops?
Is it a cash grab or what? The visit lasted less than an hour. I paid 186 dollars for this. He listened to my heart. Asked me some questions, hit each knee. Then sent me for an x-ray. Tomorrow I have to go back and get some lab work done, which I think I have to pay for that too.
I guess it is frustrating that you pay so much for the doctor to ask you questions you could have answered on your own. I could have weighed myself and checked my height. It seems a bit much if they accept people with worse anyway? What's the point?
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Lesson in Patience
The last post I talked about the fact that we got a new puppy. I think this is one of the greatest lessons of patience anyone can ever have. We have had her for over a week now and she is learning a lot. We are having a lot of fun, but there are also a lot of frustrations. Just when we think she is learning, she has an accident again. But, so it goes, she is only 9 weeks old.
Everyone we talk to says it is good practice for having kids. Well, then I guess I am happy we have a puppy first. It would be interesting to have kids without ever having gone through something like this. It is such an adjustment. But it is still fun.
It does make it hard to work sometimes. But, I am learning how to get things done when I can, and also to still have time to take her out and train her a little. It is a fun adventure, but we still need much patience!
Everyone we talk to says it is good practice for having kids. Well, then I guess I am happy we have a puppy first. It would be interesting to have kids without ever having gone through something like this. It is such an adjustment. But it is still fun.
It does make it hard to work sometimes. But, I am learning how to get things done when I can, and also to still have time to take her out and train her a little. It is a fun adventure, but we still need much patience!
Monday, September 15, 2008
New Puppy
Well, it has been a while again since I wrote. Things have been a bit busy since we got home from Ontario two weeks ago. Last week I was golfing at a Christian School golf tournament and a Pastor from another church had a heart attack and died on the course. It was pretty tragic. As a result, I was asked last week to do a wedding this past Saturday. It ended up being a good thing.
But the other things that will keep us busy for the next while is the fact we got a new puppy. She is only 8 weeks old and she is a Weimaraner. So now we have the fun task of house training her. I think it will go okay as I work out of the house, but we need to train her to be okay when we are not home as well, that will be the interesting part. Anyway, this is a fun time now for us. I am looking forward to it! Another new challenge.
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
Interesting
I haven't posted in a while due to some unexpected travel. My wife's grandfather passed away and we went back for the funeral. It was a good time to be with family and to see how the Christian community really supports people during a death in the family.
While there, we had the visitation with the family at the funeral home. This is when family and friends come and visit the family and also to witness the body of the one who has passed. It is tradition there to line up as a family to receive people as they come. Something we noticed which we thought was kind of funny was the number of people that commented on my height. It is funny to me, because if someone is short, people don't go up to them in a place like that and say, "Oh, your a small one!" I just find that funny....
Anyway, the one thing that I really wanted to comment on was the other thing people would say to me, that was: "Oh you are her husband, the minister." The reason this sticks out in my mind is because I guess, I haven't gotten my mind completely around the idea of the "specialness" of being a Minister. To some people it is very "special" to be a pastor. The reason I think that people feel this way is because you didn't hear people saying about my in-laws: "Oh, you are her husband the manager/dispatcher." Or, "You are his wife the nurse."
Being a pastor has a lot of different expectations from people. It isn't always easy to accept the role as representing Christ. As Fredrich Buechner puts it in Telling the Truth: The Gospel as Tragedy, Comedy & Fair Tale, "...not because of anything he knows or anything he is in himself but because, as an ambassador is revered for the government he represents, he is to be revered for representing Christ." (pg. 40) This is hard to accept at times, but I think as a pastor I need to think of it in this way as well. It is not because of a degree I hold from a certain Seminary. But it is because I am representing Christ that people think my job is "special."
While there, we had the visitation with the family at the funeral home. This is when family and friends come and visit the family and also to witness the body of the one who has passed. It is tradition there to line up as a family to receive people as they come. Something we noticed which we thought was kind of funny was the number of people that commented on my height. It is funny to me, because if someone is short, people don't go up to them in a place like that and say, "Oh, your a small one!" I just find that funny....
Anyway, the one thing that I really wanted to comment on was the other thing people would say to me, that was: "Oh you are her husband, the minister." The reason this sticks out in my mind is because I guess, I haven't gotten my mind completely around the idea of the "specialness" of being a Minister. To some people it is very "special" to be a pastor. The reason I think that people feel this way is because you didn't hear people saying about my in-laws: "Oh, you are her husband the manager/dispatcher." Or, "You are his wife the nurse."
Being a pastor has a lot of different expectations from people. It isn't always easy to accept the role as representing Christ. As Fredrich Buechner puts it in Telling the Truth: The Gospel as Tragedy, Comedy & Fair Tale, "...not because of anything he knows or anything he is in himself but because, as an ambassador is revered for the government he represents, he is to be revered for representing Christ." (pg. 40) This is hard to accept at times, but I think as a pastor I need to think of it in this way as well. It is not because of a degree I hold from a certain Seminary. But it is because I am representing Christ that people think my job is "special."
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Numbers Game
At a planning meeting for upcoming small groups I was really encouraged by something someone said in that meeting, but it also made me think a bit. In the discussion a question was raised as to whether or not the small groups would replace the evening service. Attendance at our evening service isn't outstanding by any means. We average about 30 people who attend the evening service. Which percentage wise from the morning service isn' t that great. We had a brief discussion then about this.
Sometimes as a Pastor I might get frustrated with the lack of attendance in the second service. I shared this a bit. It was interesting what an elder had to say then. He has shared this with me before, and I think I needed to hear it again.
The thing he said went along these lines: There are people who talk about canceling the evening service. It is interesting to note who the people are who want to cancel the evening service. It is usually the people who don't go anyway. So, really, why does it matter to them if we canceled the evening service? He also said, the people who should have a say, or vote whether or not we cancel the evening service should be limited to the 50 or so people that actually come to the second service. The one thing that I was reminded of again is the fact that the people who show up to the evening service want to be there. If we were to cancel the evening service, who would it affect, those who weren't coming anyway? Or would it affect those who really want to be there?
He had a great point and this really encouraged me. Yeah it may seem like a lot of time "wasted" to prepare for "only" 30 people. But would you rather prepare for 30 people who want to be there, or for those who don't want to be there?
This really got me thinking about how Pastors and churches think about success. Last year on my internship I found myself saying sometimes when only 12 kids would show up for youth group, well, this isn't enough to do what I was hoping to, so let's just watch a movie. Why do we think that we need more people to justify the amount of time we spend on something? Some churches only get 30 people in their doors a week.
I found out last year on my internship that no matter how many people showed up for a youth event, we still had a good time and made the best of it. I think we need to think this way sometimes about other things. Even if the numbers aren't that high, I think the quality of discussion or quality of the service is more important than quantity. So as our church begins this new venture of starting small groups, I pray that we don't measure its success purely by numbers. I hope that we can evaluate the quality of the discussions and how well people enjoyed going and how much people get out of the groups.
Sometimes as a Pastor I might get frustrated with the lack of attendance in the second service. I shared this a bit. It was interesting what an elder had to say then. He has shared this with me before, and I think I needed to hear it again.
The thing he said went along these lines: There are people who talk about canceling the evening service. It is interesting to note who the people are who want to cancel the evening service. It is usually the people who don't go anyway. So, really, why does it matter to them if we canceled the evening service? He also said, the people who should have a say, or vote whether or not we cancel the evening service should be limited to the 50 or so people that actually come to the second service. The one thing that I was reminded of again is the fact that the people who show up to the evening service want to be there. If we were to cancel the evening service, who would it affect, those who weren't coming anyway? Or would it affect those who really want to be there?
He had a great point and this really encouraged me. Yeah it may seem like a lot of time "wasted" to prepare for "only" 30 people. But would you rather prepare for 30 people who want to be there, or for those who don't want to be there?
This really got me thinking about how Pastors and churches think about success. Last year on my internship I found myself saying sometimes when only 12 kids would show up for youth group, well, this isn't enough to do what I was hoping to, so let's just watch a movie. Why do we think that we need more people to justify the amount of time we spend on something? Some churches only get 30 people in their doors a week.
I found out last year on my internship that no matter how many people showed up for a youth event, we still had a good time and made the best of it. I think we need to think this way sometimes about other things. Even if the numbers aren't that high, I think the quality of discussion or quality of the service is more important than quantity. So as our church begins this new venture of starting small groups, I pray that we don't measure its success purely by numbers. I hope that we can evaluate the quality of the discussions and how well people enjoyed going and how much people get out of the groups.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
How to pray?
In the past week my wife's grandfather has taken a turn for the worse. He has had a lot of complications with his breathing for a few years now. A few weeks ago he went on Oxygen, hoping that would comfort him. Then he was rushed to the hospital because his heart was almost out of control. It doesn't seem that he will make it out of this.
Talking with my wife she wondered, "How do you pray for Opa?" (Dutch term for Grandpa) This is a very interesting question. One that I have thought about on different occasions. When you love someone so much, you want them to be with you forever. Unfortunately, we will never live forever, and neither will our loved ones. In a time like this, we want our loved ones to be with us forever. So, we think we should pray for healing. We want Opa to be around forever.
Yet on the other hand he has had a hard time breathing for a few years. Each breath is like work for him. In the hot, humid Summers of Southern Ontario he struggles even more. The last time we visited with him he said he was sick of it. He was ready to go. That was a few months ago already. Now it appears he is close to death. Do we pray that he be healed and return to struggling for each breath? Or do we pray that the Lord would take him home soon?
No matter how many times one encounters death, it is never easy. I have experienced the death of 3 grandparents, 2 uncles, friends' parents, friends themselves, and a number of church members. No matter how many times one is faced with death, it is never easy. Each situation is different from another.
Oma, (dutch term for Grandma) said that Opa is ready to meet his redeemer. As a Christian we have the assurance of knowing Jesus died for us, so we can be with him. No matter how much we know this in our head, it still hurts our heart. Experiencing death always makes me think of the promise that Jesus will come again. At that time "They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away!" (Revelation 21:3-4).
In times like these we want to pray for ourselves. But we also pray that Opa wouldnt have to suffer any longer. In times like these I also want to pray, "Come quickly Lord Jesus!"
Talking with my wife she wondered, "How do you pray for Opa?" (Dutch term for Grandpa) This is a very interesting question. One that I have thought about on different occasions. When you love someone so much, you want them to be with you forever. Unfortunately, we will never live forever, and neither will our loved ones. In a time like this, we want our loved ones to be with us forever. So, we think we should pray for healing. We want Opa to be around forever.
Yet on the other hand he has had a hard time breathing for a few years. Each breath is like work for him. In the hot, humid Summers of Southern Ontario he struggles even more. The last time we visited with him he said he was sick of it. He was ready to go. That was a few months ago already. Now it appears he is close to death. Do we pray that he be healed and return to struggling for each breath? Or do we pray that the Lord would take him home soon?
No matter how many times one encounters death, it is never easy. I have experienced the death of 3 grandparents, 2 uncles, friends' parents, friends themselves, and a number of church members. No matter how many times one is faced with death, it is never easy. Each situation is different from another.
Oma, (dutch term for Grandma) said that Opa is ready to meet his redeemer. As a Christian we have the assurance of knowing Jesus died for us, so we can be with him. No matter how much we know this in our head, it still hurts our heart. Experiencing death always makes me think of the promise that Jesus will come again. At that time "They will be his people, and God himself will be with them and be their God. He will wipe away every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away!" (Revelation 21:3-4).
In times like these we want to pray for ourselves. But we also pray that Opa wouldnt have to suffer any longer. In times like these I also want to pray, "Come quickly Lord Jesus!"
Wednesday, August 13, 2008
Is a Pastor ever "off"?
I just had a conversation with a friend who is also a pastor. We discussed the whole idea of being a pastor and being "off" - that is, not officially working, or preaching. We wondered if that is ever truly possible?
I had been thinking about this for a while. As a pastor in a smaller community, is there ever a time when you are "off"? Even walking in to the Post Office people will recognize me (not to mention, I dont blend in well in crowds, being 6'7" and having red hair) and say hello Pastor.
I also thought about this with regards to my vacation and Sundays allowed "off." This passed Sunday was one of those "off" days. So, my wife and I attended a different church. This church is a church from our denomination but in a different town. Even there, I felt "on" so to speak. Sure I wasn't preaching, but people who know me, or my wife right away recognize me as "pastor." So even in a different church, I still felt like I had to be "on." I guess one way would be to go to a church of a different denomination where people might not recognize me.
But I was also thinking about this with regards to my vacation. I am allowed 4 weeks of vacation throughout the year. So far this year, the two vacations that we took were "working" vacations. I did two weddings and also preached in those two churches the following Sunday. It is hard to keep the balance of working and vacation. It is also hard to face the family pressure of preaching when home. Now don't get me wrong. I do love to preach. But when you are on vacation, it is nice to be "On vacation." It is nice to be able to be myself and not "Pastor" all the time.
With that being said, I do feel like at the church I am at, I can be myself most of the time. Maybe sometimes I should hold back more than I do. But that is what I really love about this church is that I can be myself, a normal person trying to follow Christ, helping others in their walk with Christ as well.
I had been thinking about this for a while. As a pastor in a smaller community, is there ever a time when you are "off"? Even walking in to the Post Office people will recognize me (not to mention, I dont blend in well in crowds, being 6'7" and having red hair) and say hello Pastor.
I also thought about this with regards to my vacation and Sundays allowed "off." This passed Sunday was one of those "off" days. So, my wife and I attended a different church. This church is a church from our denomination but in a different town. Even there, I felt "on" so to speak. Sure I wasn't preaching, but people who know me, or my wife right away recognize me as "pastor." So even in a different church, I still felt like I had to be "on." I guess one way would be to go to a church of a different denomination where people might not recognize me.
But I was also thinking about this with regards to my vacation. I am allowed 4 weeks of vacation throughout the year. So far this year, the two vacations that we took were "working" vacations. I did two weddings and also preached in those two churches the following Sunday. It is hard to keep the balance of working and vacation. It is also hard to face the family pressure of preaching when home. Now don't get me wrong. I do love to preach. But when you are on vacation, it is nice to be "On vacation." It is nice to be able to be myself and not "Pastor" all the time.
With that being said, I do feel like at the church I am at, I can be myself most of the time. Maybe sometimes I should hold back more than I do. But that is what I really love about this church is that I can be myself, a normal person trying to follow Christ, helping others in their walk with Christ as well.
Friday, August 8, 2008
Privilege
I was thinking the other day about the different privileges Pastors have. What brought this on was what happened while golfing with my dad and brother. We were paired up with two other golfers last week Saturday. After a few holes, we were discussing what the others did for work. While walking down the fairway with this one guy, he asked why I didnt drive truck like my dad and brother. I told him I drove during the summers in college, but I am now a Pastor in Canada. He right away said, "I am going through a separation and a divorce right now. I am just praying to God that he puts patience in my heart and strength to get through this."
This really made me think. I met this man, maybe an hour before when we started. Now, because he heard I was a pastor he immediately opens up about his divorce. As Pastors I think this is a privilege. People who might be complete strangers will open up to you, just because you are a pastor.
I also thought of other times where we are privileged. Last year on I was able to go into the ICU at a hospital to visit with someone from our church. Only family is allowed, but pastors are the only exception. This year also, the night of a serious accident I was able to visit with a member in the midst of his struggles.
It is hard sometimes to get my mind around this fact. Now that I am a pastor I am privileged to visit with people in some of their most trying moments in life. What an honor, and a privilege we have. But we dont do this on our own strength, or our own will. We go representing God and go with his message of hope. Being a pastor is not a job that you can leave at the church. But it is something that you are every single day. Which challenges me to represent Christ in all things.
This really made me think. I met this man, maybe an hour before when we started. Now, because he heard I was a pastor he immediately opens up about his divorce. As Pastors I think this is a privilege. People who might be complete strangers will open up to you, just because you are a pastor.
I also thought of other times where we are privileged. Last year on I was able to go into the ICU at a hospital to visit with someone from our church. Only family is allowed, but pastors are the only exception. This year also, the night of a serious accident I was able to visit with a member in the midst of his struggles.
It is hard sometimes to get my mind around this fact. Now that I am a pastor I am privileged to visit with people in some of their most trying moments in life. What an honor, and a privilege we have. But we dont do this on our own strength, or our own will. We go representing God and go with his message of hope. Being a pastor is not a job that you can leave at the church. But it is something that you are every single day. Which challenges me to represent Christ in all things.
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Things I enjoy about the Ministry
A few weeks back, a friend/colleague asked me what I enjoyed the most about ministry so far. That to me was an interesting question. One that I had not really thought of so far. Thinking about this I realize that the thing I enjoy the most about the ministry is also what can make the ministry so challenging. That thing is: People.
One of the reasons why I felt called to full time ministry was I enjoyed being with people. I am an extrovert. I love being around people. I love getting to know people, hearing their stories and being able to listen to whatever they have to say. I felt God saying, I want to use you to be able to reach out to people. I want you to love people for me.
Being in ministry for an entire 8 months now, I find that I love the interaction with people in our congregation. I love being able to be myself and not having to put on a facade because I am "the minister." I feel people can accept me for who I am, and hopefully that will build trust.
I said this was what I enjoyed the most about ministry, but it is also the most challenging thing about ministry as well. I have always felt that I didnt care what other people thought about me. I mean, I was 6'7" and had red/orange hair. I dont really blend in in a crowd. I thought I taught myself to not really care what people said or thought. But I find that is not as easy as it sounds. In ministry sometimes we have to have thick skin. Sometimes I find that it doesnt matter how thick your skin is, some things will bother you.
With all that being said, I still feel that God has called me to love his people. So to answer my friend's question, the thing I enjoy the most is the people.
One of the reasons why I felt called to full time ministry was I enjoyed being with people. I am an extrovert. I love being around people. I love getting to know people, hearing their stories and being able to listen to whatever they have to say. I felt God saying, I want to use you to be able to reach out to people. I want you to love people for me.
Being in ministry for an entire 8 months now, I find that I love the interaction with people in our congregation. I love being able to be myself and not having to put on a facade because I am "the minister." I feel people can accept me for who I am, and hopefully that will build trust.
I said this was what I enjoyed the most about ministry, but it is also the most challenging thing about ministry as well. I have always felt that I didnt care what other people thought about me. I mean, I was 6'7" and had red/orange hair. I dont really blend in in a crowd. I thought I taught myself to not really care what people said or thought. But I find that is not as easy as it sounds. In ministry sometimes we have to have thick skin. Sometimes I find that it doesnt matter how thick your skin is, some things will bother you.
With all that being said, I still feel that God has called me to love his people. So to answer my friend's question, the thing I enjoy the most is the people.
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Not that easy...
Wow, I cant believe how fast time can go by. I think the last post was on July 17...I am finding out that it isnt that easy to keep posting on this. One of the challenges I find is that I feel I need to be very profound in what I write. But as I have been told, it doesnt all have to be so profound. I need to just write what I am thinking.
Well, since the last post, a lot has happened. We have been having a good summer so far. Thursday nights we started playing baseball in town here. It is a way I thought to have some good fellowship with people in our church as well as trying to invite people from the community. Some weeks it is hit or miss, (sorry for the bad pun, not intended.) But one week I was really encouraged. We had over 20 people show up, including 5 from town.
One of the people from town was a young woman who has lived here for only about a year. It was encouraging to talk to her a few days later to hear that it was exactly what she needed. She said she had been praying to God about what to do, she had found she was lonely and needed something. She was walking to the post office and saw our invitation, and she joined us. I hope that she will continue to come and that we can get to know her a bit better.
The Gospel Jamboree also took place in our small town. Somewhere between 1,500 and 2,000 people came for this in our small town. Sunday morning our church put on a free breakfast. I guess we served over 600 people. It was also neat to see the tent packed for the interdenominational church service. It was pretty cool to see.
On July 28, Brenda and I left for California. We got up early and left at 4:00 am. We drove 22 hours and arrived in Big Bear California at 1:30 am. We drove 22 hours straight! It was a good trip, no problems. It is really amazing to see the country. We stayed at my uncle's cabin for a few days with my whole family. It was so much fun to see the nieces and nephew again! They grow up so fast it is hard to believe. While up there, the guys golfed one day and we went to the lake to swim. Not to mention the Horseshoe tournament we had, which of course I won, by throwing 2 ringers in the championship game! That was a lot of fun.
Thursday we went back down the mountain and had lunch with my cousin and his fiancee. It was really neat to meet her and her son. I was going to do their wedding on Friday night. I was really honored to do their wedding since he is 10 years older than I am. It was really cool to hear their story of how they met. It was fun to see some cousins I haven't seen in a number of years.
Sunday I was able to preach in my home church, that was a good experience, but it is my vacation, and I really struggle if I should do that while on vacation. We then left again Monday morning at 3:45. We drove for about 12-13 hours to Brigham City Utah. That was a nice day, but it was hot along the way. We were pulling our new tent trailer. We discovered it didnt take that much to set it up, and we did it without ever arguing! After setting it up, we went for a swim. It was fun, but we forgot towels, well, good thing the sun can dry us fast!
We left then Tuesday morning heading home. We had a good trip. Montana is really a beautiful state. Everything was going smooth until we hit the Canadian border. We wanted to import our trailer, which I had registered under my name. Well, I was not the smartest and didnt have the title or the bill of sale, so they wouldn't let it in. So, we had to find a place to park our trailer. We left it behind this shady bar, but it was hilarious to see how many vehicles from California are parked there until they get the proper paperwork. So, in a few weeks, I will be driving back to the border to pick up our trailer!
All in all, it was a very good trip. Only the one small hiccup at the end. I learned again why you should never assume...Now the hard part of trying to adjust back into the work routine. I am sure it will come easy since we have council tonight. Thanks for being patient, I hope to post more often now!
Well, since the last post, a lot has happened. We have been having a good summer so far. Thursday nights we started playing baseball in town here. It is a way I thought to have some good fellowship with people in our church as well as trying to invite people from the community. Some weeks it is hit or miss, (sorry for the bad pun, not intended.) But one week I was really encouraged. We had over 20 people show up, including 5 from town.
One of the people from town was a young woman who has lived here for only about a year. It was encouraging to talk to her a few days later to hear that it was exactly what she needed. She said she had been praying to God about what to do, she had found she was lonely and needed something. She was walking to the post office and saw our invitation, and she joined us. I hope that she will continue to come and that we can get to know her a bit better.
The Gospel Jamboree also took place in our small town. Somewhere between 1,500 and 2,000 people came for this in our small town. Sunday morning our church put on a free breakfast. I guess we served over 600 people. It was also neat to see the tent packed for the interdenominational church service. It was pretty cool to see.
On July 28, Brenda and I left for California. We got up early and left at 4:00 am. We drove 22 hours and arrived in Big Bear California at 1:30 am. We drove 22 hours straight! It was a good trip, no problems. It is really amazing to see the country. We stayed at my uncle's cabin for a few days with my whole family. It was so much fun to see the nieces and nephew again! They grow up so fast it is hard to believe. While up there, the guys golfed one day and we went to the lake to swim. Not to mention the Horseshoe tournament we had, which of course I won, by throwing 2 ringers in the championship game! That was a lot of fun.
Thursday we went back down the mountain and had lunch with my cousin and his fiancee. It was really neat to meet her and her son. I was going to do their wedding on Friday night. I was really honored to do their wedding since he is 10 years older than I am. It was really cool to hear their story of how they met. It was fun to see some cousins I haven't seen in a number of years.
Sunday I was able to preach in my home church, that was a good experience, but it is my vacation, and I really struggle if I should do that while on vacation. We then left again Monday morning at 3:45. We drove for about 12-13 hours to Brigham City Utah. That was a nice day, but it was hot along the way. We were pulling our new tent trailer. We discovered it didnt take that much to set it up, and we did it without ever arguing! After setting it up, we went for a swim. It was fun, but we forgot towels, well, good thing the sun can dry us fast!
We left then Tuesday morning heading home. We had a good trip. Montana is really a beautiful state. Everything was going smooth until we hit the Canadian border. We wanted to import our trailer, which I had registered under my name. Well, I was not the smartest and didnt have the title or the bill of sale, so they wouldn't let it in. So, we had to find a place to park our trailer. We left it behind this shady bar, but it was hilarious to see how many vehicles from California are parked there until they get the proper paperwork. So, in a few weeks, I will be driving back to the border to pick up our trailer!
All in all, it was a very good trip. Only the one small hiccup at the end. I learned again why you should never assume...Now the hard part of trying to adjust back into the work routine. I am sure it will come easy since we have council tonight. Thanks for being patient, I hope to post more often now!
Thursday, July 17, 2008
Exercise of Self-Discipline
One of the comments made to my first attempt was to write often so as to get into the habit, or routine of writing. Over the past couple of weeks I have noticed that I have become lazy. Lazy for a couple of different reasons, excuses I guess they could be called. When I say I am lazy, I mean it in a couple of different areas of life. Physical laziness. Laziness with regards to work. And laziness in my spiritual life.
Like I said, there are always reasons, or excuses for this laziness. Some of it can be attributed to moving to a new place and trying to find a new schedule. Some of it can be that we live so far from everything that it takes a lot of time to get somewhere to do something. I love basketball, but to drive 30 minutes to play on Wednesday night seems like a long ways. Especially with gas prices the way they are and my truck isnt good on gas....See what I mean about the excuses!
Writing this blog is one area in which I am trying to exercise some self-discipline. It will take some self-discipline to write new entries. It will take some self-discipline to think how God is interacting with the world around us.
But, I am also trying to have some more self-discipline in other areas. I have never been really strong on personal devotions. I am now trying to take time out of the day to do devotions on a regular basis.
I also began exercising physically again. I ran 2 miles yesterday and biked 6 today. It is a start at least. The problem is, with physical exercise as well as spiritual exercise, I tend to start off with great motivations and great intentions. But soon, they wear off. So hopefully now that I have other areas to work on, I will achieve some goals, physically and spiritually.
No more excuses...
Like I said, there are always reasons, or excuses for this laziness. Some of it can be attributed to moving to a new place and trying to find a new schedule. Some of it can be that we live so far from everything that it takes a lot of time to get somewhere to do something. I love basketball, but to drive 30 minutes to play on Wednesday night seems like a long ways. Especially with gas prices the way they are and my truck isnt good on gas....See what I mean about the excuses!
Writing this blog is one area in which I am trying to exercise some self-discipline. It will take some self-discipline to write new entries. It will take some self-discipline to think how God is interacting with the world around us.
But, I am also trying to have some more self-discipline in other areas. I have never been really strong on personal devotions. I am now trying to take time out of the day to do devotions on a regular basis.
I also began exercising physically again. I ran 2 miles yesterday and biked 6 today. It is a start at least. The problem is, with physical exercise as well as spiritual exercise, I tend to start off with great motivations and great intentions. But soon, they wear off. So hopefully now that I have other areas to work on, I will achieve some goals, physically and spiritually.
No more excuses...
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Giving it a Shot
Well, here we go. This is my attempt at blogging. After talking with a friend about his blogging (crcpastorchad.wordpress.com), I thought, "that might be a good idea." I spend a lot of time in my study thinking about Sermons and such, and a lot of times other things come to mind that never really get flushed out. After we talked about blogging, I thought that would be a good way to put those thoughts down somewhere.
Since talking to him there have been some things that came up that I thought would be good to blog about. So, i am giving this a shot. I dont know how faithful I will be at posting, but I think this is a good exercise to write down my thoughts and to hear feedback if people agree or not. It is also a way that others can know about my life as a "new" pastor.
So please, bear with me as I try this new venture. I look forward to seeing what comes of this.
Since talking to him there have been some things that came up that I thought would be good to blog about. So, i am giving this a shot. I dont know how faithful I will be at posting, but I think this is a good exercise to write down my thoughts and to hear feedback if people agree or not. It is also a way that others can know about my life as a "new" pastor.
So please, bear with me as I try this new venture. I look forward to seeing what comes of this.
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